Posts Tagged ‘love’

It never fails… I always find myself being that friend with all of the answers when it comes to love and relationships. But how??? How could I’ve possibly been deemed relationship guru when I’m beyond clueless when it comes to applying my advice to my own life? I’m not positively sure why but, I’m guessing it has something to do with the correlation of wisdom and
experience. You see, my friends all know that I’ve been through more than enough when speaking of toxic
relationships and the drama that comes along with it. Therefore, “He who has been dragged through the gutter has to have picked up some valuable trinkets/knowledge on the
way.” LOL!

Its 2:49 am… My phone rings. My mind immediately tells me it’s either an after the club booty call or, one of my girlfriends will be on the other end yelling and/or crying about her current failing “situationship”. Almost 87
percent of the time it’s one of my girlfriends… Surprised it wasn’t a booty call??? Pardon me but I’m a lady!!! LOL! I sit up in bed and begin to explain why we shouldn’t be having this conversation AGAIN in my most
therapeutic voice (for calming purposes of course). I tell her, just because we crave change in a man doesn’t mean it’s going to be realized. Don’t stunt your growth by
allowing the stagnation of someone else dictate your emotional well being. Stand up for yourself! Take accountability for what YOU keep allowing to occur. Respect should always be required at all times. Just as always, I hear a deep sigh… My girlfriend then says, “You know what? You’re right… I’m home now. I’ll call you tomorrow. I love you girlfriend! Thank you!”

I hang up the phone and sit there in complete silence. How the hell did I manage to give out such sound, matter of fact advice when my relationship status is almost always in a state of anarchy? You mean to tell me I could’ve just told myself the same exact shit and I would’ve been rid of all
of my emotional turmoil. Unbelievable!!!!!! Smh… LOL! This
has to be one of thee most frustrating, borderline hypocritical modes of self torture. It just proves that we really do possess the knowledge necessary to heal ourselves from self inflicted emotional distress. We just choose not
to take heed or listen to the one person that knows us best. Instead we consistently and knowingly replay the same hurtful circumstances and look for persons or things to blame for our unhappiness. It’s about time we all take accountability for our own emotional sanity.

-Nik
xoxo

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