I loved this quote when I came across it!!!! Let the positive vibes flow friends… Enjoy!

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Even though I haven’t had the opportunity to walk down the aisle and profess my love and honor to my prince charming, I do realize that such a commitment not only takes committing to the commitment, it also relies on the respect, morality, and honesty of both parties involved. I’ve watched the actions of many married couples and I try to understand the reasons and “excuses” used to justify the act of adultery as if its the only option to happiness. It’s that same old song that anyone who has ever been in or witnessed a relationship of any magnitude, has heard way too many times from the guilty party… “I just wasn’t happy anymore.”

Now I’m never one to pass judgment but, if happiness is what’s being sought out, that always begins within yourself. Common sense further tells me that making a choice to find “happiness” in someone else’s arms or bed has to be the worst way to gain it. No matter how much Karma pleads with us to reconsider, we’re all human, and because no one is perfect, these are the types of dilemma’s we can all fall prey to. I’m also very aware that marriage isn’t always the simplest thing to get out of for either party. Maybe there’s financial obligations or thoughts of disrupting the family can contribute to reasons why they stay in certain situations they no longer feel is emotionally beneficial or you know you’re blatantly being disrespected in once adultery has occurred.

As an adult, at some point we have to make choices and decisions that may come off selfish to take the time to explore what personally makes us happy and begin to move toward that by any means. Yes, hearts may temporarily be broken, minds eternally confused, and love tested but, only honesty and time can heal those scars. The scar that leaves the most emotional turmoil is the one that’s created by not only the act of infidelity but, it’s the lies and actions taken to hide the affair thats always hardest to understand. The adulterer may feel as though he or she is being discreet about their affairs but, it’s easy to notice the smallest change in habit when it comes to your spouse, but with the level of excitement that infidelity offers, it’s hard to maintain that discreetness. This new “lifestyle” may even make you believe that what you have at home is no longer satisfactory and you’re finally getting what you think you deserve. Don’t get to consumed in that… Usually that feeling fades once the disaster of divorce or separation comes into play. It’s the rush of doing something you know in your heart you shouldn’t be doing that fuels most indiscretions. Once found out, you’ll experience how fast things can drastically turn for the worst because good ole Karma loves to remind and teach the lesson of the grass not always being greener on the other side.

You have to be openly honest with yourself and know that everyone, especially the man or woman you vowed to love and cherish forever, deserves the dignity and respect to always have the option to be happy whether it be with you or someone else more deserving. It’s never the act of falling out of love that crushes someone the most, its the void of respect and consideration that can be unforgiveable. If you took the time, love, and effort to be with someone and marry them, use that same mind and will to protect and respect them once your feelings have changed. You both may experience some level of pain and sorrow but no relationship or person should suffer due to another’s persons bad choice. Sometimes the biggest way to show someone you once cared about that you still love them is by legally signing documents and walking away.

-Nik

Hey Sweet Lips…

Posted: August 22, 2014 in Uncategorized

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When the weather begins to change, so does your skin and that includes the skin on your lips my friends. So, here’s a quick little sugar exfoliant/scrub to give those lips a little TLC. This sweet concoction will have your lips feeling smooth and ready for any type of lip service. 😉 Not only does this soften your lips, it helps prevent them from being chapped because of a splash of a simple ingredient which adds and retains moisture. You’ll even notice how much easier you lipstick/gloss glides on. This sugary lip therapy is a sure way to pout perfection.

So here’s what you’ll need:

*About 2 Tbsp of sugar
*2-3 tsp of honey
*just a splash of extra virgin olive oil

Mix all ingredients to a thick, sticky, grainy consistency. Apply mixture to clean dry lips and let sit for about a minute or so. Next, gently rub back…

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When the weather begins to change, so does your skin and that includes the skin on your lips my friends. So, here’s a quick little sugar exfoliant/scrub to give those lips a little TLC. This sweet concoction will have your lips feeling smooth and ready for any type of lip service. 😉 Not only does this soften your lips, it helps prevent them from being chapped because of a splash of a simple ingredient which adds and retains moisture. You’ll even notice how much easier you lipstick/gloss glides on. This sugary lip therapy is a sure way to pout perfection.

So here’s what you’ll need:

*About 2 Tbsp of sugar
*2-3 tsp of honey
*just a splash of extra virgin olive oil

Mix all ingredients to a thick, sticky, grainy consistency. Apply mixture to clean dry lips and let sit for about a minute or so. Next, gently rub back and forth with either your finger or a damp wash cloth. Rinse with cool water, blot dry and apply your favorite balm, gloss, or lip stick. My favorite lip moisturizer hands down is “Baby Lips” by Maybelline in “Berry Bomb”. It’s feels amazing on your lips and gives the cutest translucent purple hue just perfect for fall.

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Keep your kisses sweet… 😉

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Every woman on the planet all have the same concerns when it comes to acquiring and maintaining a gorgeous mane. There a million products that proclaim the promotion of strong healthy tresses which are offered almost everywhere from local beauty supply stores, to expensive salon services. Not to discredit anyone’s store brought hair remedies or the actual positive results that may come from usage but, why spend money on ridiculously priced hair therapies and treatments when all you need is right in your own kitchen…

Now, I am no hair guru by far and I’ve had plenty of experiences where I believed the Hair God’s were punishing me with eternal breakage and constant damage but, since I’ve recently vowed to care for my hair, I did a little research for more natural ingredients and alternatives that ensure hair bliss. What I’ve come to realize is the most important step in repairing dry undernourished hair is incorporating a deep conditioning regimen. Once a week I mix up a few simple ingredients to make my own deep conditioner and after only three weeks, I already notice a positive change in the health of my hair. Here’s what I use…

*Cream of Natures Argon Oil Intensive Conditioning Treatment – I absolutely adore this conditioner! This stuff is my miracle in a bottle! It can actually stand alone without any other added ingredients but I choose to rev it up. (You can substitute with your own personal favorite conditioner)

*1 egg– The incredible edible egg is most important in my deep conditioning mix. The amount of protein in one egg can create an intense protein treatment. The protein in eggs help rebuild and strengthen damaged hair. Being as though hair is composed of 70% keratin protein, the egg protein fills in the gaps and help restore and repair damages. Not only will you have stronger hair that’s less prone to breakage, that added protein is essential for hair growth.

*1 tsp of Extra Virgin Olive Oil– Olive oil (just a very small amount) will give your hair a healthy weightless glow. The addition of this essential oil is sure to give life and add moisture and shine to lack luster hair.

I mix all three ingredients and apply to my freshly washed and towel dried hair. You can leave this in for as little as 20 minutes or an hour. I usually leave mine in while I’m writing or just doing chores around the house. The longer it sits the better. Well thats what I like to believe… Lol. I then rinse with luke warm to cool water, style accordingly, and VIOLA!!! Revitalized hair!!!

Happy Conditioning Folks… Enjoy!

-Nik

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I don’t know about you guys but, my most anticipated time of the year is… Drum roll please… FALL!!!!! Yes ladies and gents, time to go to the mall to shop for the latest season appropriate attire, move your boots and jackets to the front of your closets, and make that trip to whatever storage area you utilize to resurrect your must have fall pieces. That feeling of unveiling your favorite distressed denim jacket (which you swore you lost or was stolen) can be euphoric if you love fashion as much as I. But it doesn’t just stop at fashion for fall. The new colors and shades that are deemed essential for your lips and nails are always boldly amazing. With that being said, let me show you just a couple of fall worthy trends that I absolutely adore.

Distressed is Best

Whether it’s a jacket, shirt, or bottoms, denim in my eyes is thee Holy Grail of fashion. It can be dressed up or down, and the shades and washes are endless. One of my personal favorites are the distressed denims. The rips paired with the rugged worn look create an edgy look that can serve as the foundation to serve simple chic! Check these out…

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No Shade to Leather and Suede

Two very vital textiles for the fall have to be leather and suede. I mean seriously, who doesn’t love a leather or suede jacket or blazer that fits as if it was specifically made for you. Not to mention, when it comes to fabulous fall footwear such as peep toe and ankle booties, sexy knee or thigh high boots, or even that trusty pointed toe pump, leather and suede always reign supreme. Oh and ladies, if you can get your hands on a leather or suede pencil skirt, God loves you and you should be oh so grateful. Also don’t be afraid to go bold with your color and texture selection. Nothing screams fabulous more than a turquoise snakeskin peep toe bootie. Here are a few options/ideas…

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Nail that Pout!

Another reason I can’t get enough of fall is the beautiful deep pallets offered that can automatically give life to your pout and nails. Nothing screams confidence and “I got my shit together” like a bold lip and flawless nails to match. Along with your faithful, traditional nude pallet, berries, purples, browns, oranges, and reds are beautiful daring fall shades to add to your collection. Here are a few shades I must have or do have…

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*Nik Fact

Now now… fall is the season when the truth starts to wiggle its way out. It’s easy and beyond affordable to ball so hard in the summer season ladies when you’re buying ten dresses for $100 made of 90% spandex and 10% lycra, but when the weather changes to full length jacket prices and quality is favored, I’m sure those Instagram pictures will gradually decline. Gents, watch your faux video vixen magically turn into your below average mediocre. Not to say you can’t bargain shop or find great prices for amazing fall attire but, usually the thrifty, summer loving chicks don’t have a clue where those deals are.

Sound familiar???
If you haven’t said it a million times after a break up, I’m almost certain you’ve heard it from any human being who’s been in a tried and failed relationship. It seems almost natural to speak those words especially if you’re the one left heartbroken yet again by the same person. The only problem is while the word “DONE” rings absolute and undoubted, the heart and the mind have a far different plan in stored for you. It’s that never ending battle which looks as if there’s no win and causes a level of heartache that can break the strongest of us.

This is without a doubt one of the most redundant lines used by myself usually after the second break up with that one person I can’t seem to emotionally release from my life. I mean it sounds good at the time especially when chatting with your unforgiving girlfriends who’ve condemned your ex even before he became your ex. Besides, who wants to be viewed as weak or a door mat in the eyes of your peers. So what if your friends are saying “its ok babe” or “I know it hurts” (which to you only masks their true feelings which are: “I can’t believe this stupid bitch keeps allowing this to happen”), the anger and ego you possess won’t let you speak anything but “This time I’m done”.

The most confusing and frustrating about the whole scenario is you might honestly feel as though you have exceeded your capacity of bullshit allowed by one individual but, for some reason you can’t find the strength or dignity to completely walk away no matter how big or small the offense may be. Is it love? Is it stupidity? Is it fear of being alone? The questions are endless when trying to decipher matters of the heart and no one answer or hypothesis offers any sentiment or consolation.

The only sound advice that can be given is to KNOW YOUR WORTH. I know we’ve heard that almost as many times as “this time I’m done” but, knowing your worth is the first step in letting go of repetitious, toxic relationships. Now the question is… How do I know my worth? Well, first and foremost be completely honest with yourself. No one knows you better than you. Take a personal inventory of your soul that exposes both your weaknesses and strengths. What I’ve learned is we often get hurt or played because we’re not sure of whom we truly are. We haven’t given ourselves that glorious opportunity to experience SELF HAPPINESS. We subconsciously believe that our partner is responsible for making us happy but that’s far from reality. Your mate should compliment and add to your happiness, not create it. That dependency leaves us vulnerable to all types of relationship drama. We begin settling and accepting shit we screamed to the heavens we would never allow all in fear of losing what we believe makes us happy. The strength that comes with knowing yourself and what you’re willing to endure or tolerate is the key to making the decision to leave a bad situation just a tad easier. Shit, maybe even make you a tad wiser. Can’t beat that! 🙂

*Nik Tip*
Ok so if you’ve declared this is the last time and you’re completely sure of yourself, why not challenge yourself???

Disclaimer : This is a Self Help method.. Meaning I thought of and tried this method to Help Myself. What works for me may not work for most… 😉

*Just Say NO to Friendship: “Friendship” after failed relationships are almost always a waste of time. You can be cordial (Hi and bye type of thing) but try to keep it to a minimum. It’s easy to rekindle old nonsense by way of faux friendship. TRUST!
*Now Block it Out!: Utilize that call block feature!!! Even though you know the number by memory… Don’t use it!!! Remember, you can’t miss a call you don’t know you’ve received. Oh and yes this includes contact through email or social media.
*Switch it up: You’re not running scared but try to find different spots to hang out. In other words, don’t go somewhere you know your ex will be. It’s a set up and dead giveaway all rolled up in one!

Now try to keep it going for about 30 days… If you can’t, your hearts not ready. You may need another round or two of bullshit before you’re truly done. If you can get through it, you’ll be 30 days stress free and counting. Keep it going!!! I promise it gets easier babes…